Marital Therapy - SATURDAY EDITION: Q RESPONSE

Q: Am Walter 36 years, before I raise my issue allows me to pass my gratitude to HALI ILIVYO MARITAL THERAPY for this edition you introduced  two weeks ago to help some of us who have inferiority complex, the only platform we can raise our banning issues. Back to my banning issue,

My wife hates sex a lot while I love and enjoy it so much, so I have reached an extent of playing her because I have  no other option, please  advice if whatever am doing is the best option.

MARITAL THERAPY TEAM RESPONSE.

Hi Walter, that sounds awful, sorry that you are in that position. My first question is, has it always been like this or it changed at one point? If she used to love sex and does not love it anymore, then you should ask yourself what changed and when did it? You need to sit down and have a talk with her. More than often this kind of issue in a relationship could arise due to different reasons. For example some women tend not to be interested with their partner sexually when they have an unresolved issue with them. If maybe you had an issue and it went unresolved, it could have made her harbor resentment towards you which might grow with each passing day that it stays unresolved. Another reason could be if they are not sexually gratified. Women just like men love to get orgasms. If they have sex multiple time and never get to reach orgasm, especially if they used to, they might start to resent sex because there is nothing there for them (Orgasm that is). These are just some of the examples of reasons why women would deny their partners sex in a relationship. You getting sex from somewhere else does not solve the issue. It can only make the issue worse especially if she finds out you are unfaithful. You need to take time and have an open and honest conversation with her about it. Good Communication is key in any relationship and its what determines which marriages work and which ones fail. Don't look for the easy way out, face you problems and try to solve them. All the best.

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